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THE MEN'S/FATHERS' MOVEMENT &
DIVORCE ASSISTANCE OPERATIONS MANUAL
History -- Philosophy -- by R. F. Doyle
IV Edition 1992
Poor Richard's Press
Men's Defense Association
About the Author
Richard F. Doyle was born December 3, l930 in Rosemount,
Minnesota. He attended St. John's Prep. School,
Collegeville, Minn., White Bear High School, White Bear
Lake, Minn., and St. Thomas College, St. Paul, Minn.
Doyle served four years with the U.S. Air Force during the
Korean War. He was an air traffic controller for l7 years
and an active commercial pilot and flight instructor for 3
years. His business experience includes restaurant
management, shrimping, editing and publishing.
Divorced in l957, Doyle was shocked by the anti-male
prejudice evidenced by the court system. Later he came to
realize that this was but one facet of a broad and sinister
He formed the Men's Defense Association in l972 and Men's
Equality Now (M.E.N.) International, an international
coalition of similar organizations, in l977. He became an
author and lecturer on gender issues, especially divorce.
His best known work is The Rape of The Male.1 He has
appeared on national TV shows, as well as many local TV and
radio programs throughout the country. Currently, he is
Editor-in-Chief of The Liberator, première monthly
newsmagazine of the U.S. men's rights/divorce reform
movement, with international circulation and is happily
The divorce rate has increased alarmingly. Many lawyers
have capitalized on domestic miseries by charging
unconscionable fees for often shoddy work, especially on
behalf of men. This booklet is intended to train counseling
service and divorce reform organization personnel in
assisting clients or members, and as a result to ultimately
destroy the divorce racket.
Because, of the two sexes, the male is by far the more
discriminated against in divorce, most clients will be male,
and the basic orientation of most divorce reform and self-
help organizations are to relieve the plight of the male.
However procedures in this manual are applicable to either
This booklet contains the basic procedures and paperwork
to operate a divorce assistance and referral service, with
or without counseling. The procedures described herein were
developed, through trial and error, by two organizations
with which this writer has been associated over a long time.
It is highly condensed, so pay attention to every word.
Some suggestions, like being firm about payment of
membership dues, may seem unnecessary to newcomers. Try to
understand, they are the result of long experience.
Careful adherence, allowing freedom for local variations
as necessary, will enable competent persons2 to operate
effectively with a minimum of time and effort and even, if
desired, to make a modest to fair living by performing a
socially needed service.
Proper use of this booklet requires an understanding of
two other MDA publications, DIVORCE: What Everyone Should
Know and The Men's Manifesto3, a thorough understanding of
It is not the purpose of this booklet to fully address the
issues of divorce reform. However, fledgling organizations
are often at a loss to know what legislative reform
proposals to offer. A short divorce reform section is
included here for that purpose. For further information,
see our booklet, DIVORCE: What Everyone should Know.
Disclaimer: The author, the Men's Defense Association and
Poor Richard's Press accept no responsibility for the
legality of the information herein. We recommend checking
with an attorney before taking actions that may have
R. F. Doyle
I. DIVORCE SUPPORT SERVICE
When Yours Truly joined this movement back in l966, I
fully and naively expected (no doubt like many others) to
expose and stamp out sex discrimination, almost single-
handedly, within five years. Experience has shown that
cleaning out these Augean Stables will take a great deal
longer than that, and require cooperation among many groups.4
What men need is not hand holding, which is about all some
organizations do, but concrete, competent help. Charles
Metz, President of America's $ociety of Divorced Men (A$DM)
and author of Divorce and Custody For Men (out of print)
accomplished a breakthrough when he developed the concept of
individual, professional divorce counseling. This writer
served as counselor in the A$DM office until Metz's death in
l97l. Subsequently, I refined his methods and applied them
in the Men's Defense Association (MDA) which incorporated in
Minnesota in May l973. Neither A$DM nor MDA ever held
The major advantages of counseling and referral activities
over public meetings conducted by most other organizations
are as follows:
1. Counseling by experienced, professional people help
men more than does counseling by occasional volunteers.
2. Members will more readily follow advice and pay
appreciable dues if they know competent people are helping
3. The dues finance overhead, lobbying and educational
activities, as well as salaries.
4. There is no immobilization through dissent, which
seems always to be present when divorced men congregate.
Because a properly run divorce counseling service can earn
considerable income, the business aspect can become
paramount. While a true reformer will eschew such
motivations, some good still comes from mercenaries: they
help break the divorce racket.
1. Basic Decision
The first step in establishing a Men's Divorce Support
Service is to determine whether it will be a counseling and
referral (public office) operation, usually with a
professional staff, or a referral only (private office)
operation, usually home and mail based with a part time
staff. While these two means differ substantially, inasmuch
as the latter does no personal counseling, the same basic
setup and philosophy apply.
It is advisable to incorporate as a non-profit
organization, under either IRS Code 501(c)3 [Educational] or
501(c)4 [Social, Welfare]. Founders may use a referral
attorney to file the application or do it themselves. IRS
Publication 557 contains complete, simple and easy
instructions, including sample Articles of Incorporation.
It would be well to refer to the Articles of Incorporation
of any good existing group for specific language. IRS
Package l023 contains Tax Exemption Application forms.
Familiarity with these IRS publications is imperative.
One of the reasons for incorporation as a reform
organization is that it gives members a clear right to
assembly and free speech. Simply setting up a counseling
office to deal with the public is asking for state and bar
association prosecution for "practicing law without a
3. Physical plant
The office should be proximate to a large population area.
Used equipment is OK. It should include a couple of desks,
several chairs, legal width file cabinets, 2 active phone
lines with a 3rd line reserved (preferably in numerical
sequence), optionally a commercial phone answering device
with capacity for a 3 minute outgoing message on the 1st
line, a typewriter, stationery, usual office supplies, and
access to a photocopy machine. A computer is a real help
for electronic form filling and filing. A fax machine
expedites sending fax reports to attorneys. One phone line
can suffice for mail-only type operations (explained later),
but this requires choosing between personally answering all
incoming calls or having a tape recorder do it. Initial
capitalization can be as low as $300, although rent deposit
and good office equipment can add substantially to that
figure. A bank account will be necessary.
Obviously, the operators should be intelligent persons who
can elicit pertinent information from members, analyze it,
and make appropriate recommendations including attorney
referrals. Good counselors are rarer than monogamous
politicians. They should have DIVORCE: What Everyone Should
Know almost committed to memory. This paragraph goes double
for counseling operations.
Some law background, even Pro Se, is very desirable.
Paralegal training is helpful.5
5. Attorney stable
It is necessary to develop several good, dependable
referral attorneys, about one or two per million people in
large metropolitan areas, and one in each smaller community.
Judge them primarily by results. Don't second guess them;
that's not your job. If they do not know more about law
than you, fire them and get ones that do.
The prospect of substantial divorce business from your
office (anywhere from $10,000 to $100,000 each annually)
motivates your referral attorneys to work hard, at
reasonable rates, to go that extra mile for your members.
No ordinary lawyer would do that on behalf of male clients,
in view of the risk associated with so alienating the local
judicial establishment. Having too many attorneys
diminishes their financial incentive, and lessens your
influence with them. In larger communities it is desirable
to develop specialists in various aspects of divorce; tough,
experienced fighters for custody and other disputes, and
inexpensive, struggling young lawyers for defaults and
stipulations(or whatever your jurisdiction calls agreed-upon
situations). As you bring them along, these young lawyers
will become your big guns. Get a large supply of business
cards from them for handout at counseling sessions.
The organization's relationship with these attorneys
should be simply this: the organization agrees to send them
a substantial amount of business per year, in return for
diligent work at reasonable rates for members. These
attorneys should also agree to provide members with a free
brief initial interview, to meet the attorney, get his early
impression of the case, and discuss fee arrangements. Of
course, it is nearly impossible to predict the final fee
with accuracy, except in defaults and in agreed-upon
situations, where it should be between $300 and $1,000
(excluding court costs), depending on the complexities of
the case and on local price variations. If the attorneys
charge by the hour, the cost per hour is not nearly as
important as the honesty of their clock. Free interviews
alone are worth the cost of membership, and should be used
as a selling point. But if you advertise it in newspapers
or on tape, you and your attorneys may be in trouble. They
should also agree to itemized billing.
The arrangements between attorneys, the organization and
members should be clear to all. There should be no
kickbacks; they undermine what you are trying to do. The
attorneys will get careless or charge too much. You cannot
get rid of them if necessary, because you are obligated.
Your members suffer. Your membership intake diminishes,
because it is largely built on reputation. You will need
legitimate favors from these lawyers, like free advice or a
defense when the local bar association sues to stop your
operation. Besides, it's just plain wrong.
Attempt to get all the free publicity possible by mailing
out news releases similar to the example in Appendix A.
Follow up by contacting local news media and offering
When ready to begin operation, place an ad, similar to
those in Appendix B, in the Sunday personal classified
section of large local papers (and optionally in the
"Attorney Referral" section of the local telephone book
7. Literature and forms
Stock a couple of hundred copies of DIVORCE: What Everyone
Should Know. Prepare several hundred forms appropriate to
whichever of the two kinds of operations you choose, as
Prepare a large wall chart from Appendix A, Table 1 of
DIVORCE: What Everyone Should Know, and place in the
counseling office behind the counselor's chair.
Both kinds of operation will need the forms in Appendixes
A, B, C, & H (Herein). Additionally, mail-only operations
will need the forms in Appendixes D and F. Personal
counseling operations will also need the forms in Appendix
Personal counseling operations should have forms for
modifying support, visitation, premarital agreements,etc.,6
as well as copies of support formulas. A sophisticated
operation will have the necessary forms scanned into their
computer, ready for filling out onsite for client/members.
Client records can be filed electronically in simple
"cardfiles" or elaborate "contact management files."
Support services can even branch out and buy cheap
computer software for general legal matters like wills,
leases, contracts, bills of sale, incorporation papers, etc.
One should always check with the referral attorneys or the
appropriate Bar Association for their approval.
Appendix List: Publicity Releases (Appendix A); Media
Ads. (Appendix B); Telephone tape (Appendix C); Prospective
Member Letters Fact Sheet and Application form for mail-
only (Appendix D); Applications for personal counseling
(Appendix E); New Member/Attorney Referral letters (Appendix
F); and Data Sheets (Appendix G); Evaluation form (Appendix
C. OPERATING PROCEDURES
Whether operating a personal counseling or mail-only
operation, the basic procedure is to:
1. Publicize availability of help to members with divorce
or other gender-discriminatory problems.
2. Require a membership fee before giving help.
3. Obtain information pertinent to the case.
4. Encourage salvation of marriage. Statistics
concerning the terrible consequences on children are
5. Present appropriate information to members.
6. Refer members to appropriate local resources.
1. Personal counseling operation
Make a recording similar to the example in Appendix C and
insert it in a phone answering device attached to the 1st
phone line. A tape message is optional, but it saves much
repetition. It is imperative that the tape makes clear to
prospective member/clients that they must become members
before counseling can take place. This is for your
protection. It is only natural for people to try getting
what they can for nothing, especially skeptical men facing
an impoverishing divorce. Most are more concerned about
their own immediate problems than about helping finance an
organization fighting for an intangible cause, even if it's
their own. The tape also announces your 2nd or direct line
When prospective members call on the voice line, they
should already understand the procedure; so simply set up an
appointment without discussing their case by phone. Tell
them what information you will need a detailed accounting
and valuation of assets and liabilities, types of ownership
joint, separate, before marriage, etc., and personal
information and to bring any papers already served or
filed. Schedule appointments every hour and a half, shorter
as you learn procedures and add more counselors.
When prospective members arrive for the counseling
session, do not begin discussing their case until they have
read and signed the membership application form and paid the
dues. Give them a receipt from a duplicate receipt book,
and a data sheet (Appendix G), asking them to fill out as
well as possible the objective portion only, leaving empty
any blanks for which they do not know the answers. Also
give them a filled-out sample data sheet as a guide (sealing
it in plastic will lengthen its life).
When they have completed the objective portion, the
counselor then goes over the information item by item,
making sure it is correct and legible. He then obtains the
subjective data chronological information concerning the
marital problem(s); fault, both parties' personal
characteristics, financial arrangements, etc., etc. It is
best to jot this down on scratch paper during the session,
and immediately thereafter organize and enter it in the
subjective portion of the data sheet.
Following the wall chart previously mentioned, the
counselor determines if the marriage is salvageable. If it
is so, he pursues that course with referrals to marriage
counselors, appropriate books, horror stories about divorce,
etc. If not, he attempts to determine if the parties can
agree to separation or divorce terms themselves without
outside interference by lawyers and judges. Often they have
already done so; in which case he details their agreement on
the data sheet. If they have not, but the possibility
exits, he sends them home with a copy of DIVORCE: What
Everyone Should Know to work an agreement out according to
the guidelines therein and to call back with the details.
If the member and his spouse reach agreement, the counselor
refers them to a low priced attorney specializing in
agreements and defaults. Such attorneys are usually
preferable to self-representation.
If there is no agreement, the counselor determines exactly
what the dispute is about economic assets or child custody
usually, and refers the matter to a referral attorney with
In difficult matters, where agreement on the divorce or
its terms is impossible, members should avail themselves of
all pertinent information. They should read books suggested
in DIVORCE: What Everyone Should Know. Money is a very
important motivating factor in divorce. Both aspiring
divorcees and their attorneys want it badly. Employ every
means to deny their access. You will learn the tricks as
Counseling should be businesslike and to the point, with a
minimum of visiting and commiserating. There are social
agencies and other organizations for that purpose.
Counselors must ignore and cut short the mountains of
irrelevancies which counselees will heap upon them. They
must be tough. There are better expenditures of time than
hand-holding individual members.
Counselors must NEVER give "advice," that is, tell members
directly what to do or what the law is on certain points,
even if they know. That is what referral attorneys are for.
The counselor must avoid charges of practicing law without a
license by such means as saying, "If I were you, I would do
this or that;" or, "I think that's legal or illegal, but
check it out with your referral attorney." Assume that
every member being counseled is a bar association spy. Some
The referral procedure is as follows: give the attorney's
business card to the member, or information therefrom if he
is on the phone reporting success or failure in reaching
agreement. Tell him to wait before contacting the attorney
to make an appointment, until you have had time to type the
data sheets from the handwritten original, and fax it to the
designated attorney so that he may refer to it when the
member calls for his appointment. Retain the original in
your files. In emergency cases, the counselor can make a
phone appointment with an available referral attorney for
the same day, fax the data immediately or give it to the
member in a sealed envelope to hand carry to the attorney.
Also give clients/members a Service Evaluation Report
card, and ask them to return it when their case is over,
with their evaluation of the referral attorney and of the
counseling received from you. These reports are helpful in
evaluating your counselors and referral attorneys. Although
it is impossible to satisfy some people, opinions expressed
are generally accurate. These cards are normally your only
Because the data sheet, if properly prepared, has saved
the attorney a great deal of time and work, the free portion
of his interview should take only l5 or 20 minutes, and
after that both attorney and member should agree if and when
the fee clock starts. This saving of attorney time also
translates into saving of your member's money. It is not
wise to look over the attorney's shoulder during the
progress of cases. The function of the counselor is not to
be an attorney, but to choose proper attorneys and keep them
motivated. You function much as a union business agent does
in representing his membership to employers. You keep them
from being screwed.
Perfecting these procedures will take at least a year.
Reasonable membership rates begin around $40, with $25
annual renewals. After becoming more experienced, $60 or
more first year memberships and $30 renewals are reasonable.
2. Mail (referral-only) operation
Those who prefer not to become involved in personal
counseling or who prefer to begin on a smaller scale have
the option of conducting a mail service. This may operate
out of a home office using a Post Office box. The
principles are the same, but without personal contact and
with the operator having much less information about cases.
Again, place ads (Appendix B) in the Sunday personal
columns and optionally in the phone book yellow pages. Also
place a modified tape recording (Appendix C) in your phone
answering device. If prospective members can contact an
organization only by phone or mail, they naturally like to
have adequate information about it. So prepare a
prospective literature packet such as that appearing in
Appendix D. Asking a couple of dollars for the literature
defrays costs and weeds out the merely curious.
When the prospective members send in their completed
application forms and membership fees, use the form letter
in Appendix F to refer them to appropriate attorneys.
Provide them also with evaluation forms.
It is a good idea to hold semi-annual divorce seminars in
a large meeting room, usually at a large motel, using
referral attorneys as speakers. Usually they will share the
room rental and advertizing costs with you, or even foot the
4. Some Tips
Occasionally, members will volunteer to help. There are
many things a sincere volunteer can do. One is to place
decals and 3 x 5 inch cards with your organization's name,
phone and logo on bulletin boards and other places.
Financially strapped prospective members can pay for their
membership this way, or by donating something of value.
Volunteers can help you sponsor Little League ball teams, or
hand out literature at fairs.
Ernest del Casal operates an excellent service in Las
Vegas, NV (Equal Rights for Divorced Fathers. Phone 702/387-
6266). He is very cooperative in teaching others how to
Do not try to publish a newsletter. There are already too
many small ones, most of which die within a year. Choose a
good one (preferably The Liberator) and recommend it to your
members. You receive a substantial commission for selling
Before long you may become so effective at breaking up the
local divorce racket, the bar association will sue to stop
your operation. Usually the charges they bring are
"practicing law without a license." Use your best referral
attorneys to defend. The local branch of the ACLU might
join you as Amicus Curiae. An essential element in your
defense is that you do not give legal advice to members, you
merely collect information from them for attorneys. You act
as a paralegal or consultant for the attorneys. This writer
would not (and did not) turn files over to the bar
association in discovery proceedings, even when ordered to
do so by a collusive judge. Without evidence, there is not
much they can do.8
You may have current copies of your state's divorce
statute available to satisfy members who insist upon reading
"the law." However, because most judges do not know or give
a damn about the law, it's almost pointless to read or refer
to it. Judges do what they please with impunity. Don't be
shocked. That's the way it is.
Do not succumb to the delusion that every guy who plunks
down his membership fee is l00% or even 50% in the right and
that their wives are in the wrong. It is not necessary to
judge these things, simply to do your best for your
D. DIVORCE REFORM PROPOSALS
[TAKE FROM WESKAD]
II. THE MEN'S/FATHERS' MOVEMENT
From "The Rape of The Male"
Many attempts at improving the status of men have
developed over the years, differing according to various
perceptions of the problems, the most serious of which
concern divorce. For many years, divorce victims have
individually dashed themselves against the monstrous atoll
of anti-male prejudice, hoping to eventually erode it.
Reformers are about as novel, unpopular and frustrated as
were civil rights proponents 150 years ago. Little men,
bloody but unbowed, scurrying about with their brief cases,
they harass the establishment as bees do a bear. All
reformers, when advocating unpopular positions, are usually
publicly ridiculed as rabble-rousers. That's an age-old
problem (Ask Christ). They are even likely to be considered
mentally abnormal. Not without cause. Normal people do not
go about attempting to right wrongs. These men were above
normal riding point in the crossing of new philosophic
frontiers. The legal establishment dismisses them as a
"bunch of bitter men." Of course they are bitter just as
the Jews are bitter about their treatment by Hitler's
As with all reformers, by the time credibility is
established and authority achieved, cynicism, greed, or
exhaustion cools much ardor.
Probably the greatest enemy of divorced men is themselves
and their wounded male egos. This monstrous phenomenon is
pervasive. Preoccupation with personal problems,
conflicting philosophies and tangential departures has long
prevented cooperation. Many reformers are beset by human
failings and poverty. Some see things through the prism of
their own case, unable to visualize problems and solutions
in the proper perspective, beyond their own limited
horizons. Although some have greater resolve to break the
divorce racket than to live; others are gutless, fearful of
antagonizing the powers that be. Of course, there is a
radical element, highly charged almost paranoid men, seeing
conspiracies behind every desk and in every briefcase. With
them, hatred of the ex-wife and the system spill over and
become directed toward the nearest individuals fellow
In most movements and especially in this one, there are
differing factions. But the philosophical differences are
not nearly as great as the personal ones. Many self-
appointed "leaders," are like barnyard roosters kings on
their own dunghills. Taking a clue from the Devil in
Milton's Paradise Lost, they would rather "reign in Hell
than serve in Heaven." Being a "big-frog-in-a-small-pond"
means more to some than being mere members of a real
organization. They would sooner break the movement than not
be its leader.
For these reasons, resistance to reform has been greater
from within the movement than from without. Fighting over
means to the same end has rendered us largely ineffective
and permitted our common enemies to grind out destruction
with pitifully little opposition. Upon this Arab-like
disunity is rested the keystone of the arch of governmental
tyranny that enslaves us all. This suicidal "self-
castration" is indefensible. The buffalo comes to mind.
These magnificent animals are now almost extinct, because
they stood around eating grass and nosing their freshly
killed as tongue-hunters picked them off one by one. Had
they a brain large enough for self-preservation instincts,
they could have herded up and stampeded the poachers; even
if it meant not personally leading the charge.
To this day there remains an obstinate, almost militant
refusal of the various elements to cooperate in opposition
to its enemies and problems. This old accursed phenomenon
does more harm than all the anti-male elements in society
combined. One could say, "We have met the enemy and he is
3. Organization attempts
The legitimate men's/fathers' movement grew from early
efforts at divorce reform. Its largest constituency remains
in that field.
Organized divorce reform began in 1906 when Sir Arthur
Conan Doyle founded the Divorce Law Reform Union in England.
It is still in existence. In those days, the pendulum was
at the other extreme, women were oppressed, so its intention
was to protect them.
In America, organized reform began for men in the 1800s with
small groups scattered about. The National Sociological
League was perhaps the earliest large organization. In 1931
its Executive Director, Dr. Alexander Dallek, claimed 25,000
members, from every state in the union. They attacked
shotgun marriages and unreasonable child support (which in
those days actually was child support, not disguised
alimony). In 1932 an organization called The Family
Protection League lobbied state legislatures. No details of
its demise are recorded.
In 1960 Reuben Kidd and George Partis formed "Divorce
Racket Busters" in Sacramento, California. After coming to
national prominence in 1961, the name changed to United
States Divorce Reform Inc. (U.S.D.R.). Its Board of
Directors was Reuben Kidd,9 George Partis, Jay Burchett,10
Dr. Winterfield, and John Cooper. By 1963 USDR's active
membership roster had grown to 2,000 members.
USDR's prime focus was modernization of California state
divorce laws by replacing divorce courts with "Family
Arbitration Centers." The effort was entitled the "Sitton-
Winterfield Initiative." It never obtained the necessary
signatures to qualify on the ballot for the November 1966
Although the concentration on California's laws may have
been practical, a "shake-down cruise" to prepare for taking
on all state's laws, non-Californians became restless, and
began falling away. Parochial interests developed.
Themselves seemingly afflicted with the divorce syndrome,
various factions began feuding and broke off to form their
own splinter groups. Separate organizations sprung up
everywhere. There are now several hundred, with varying
degrees of legitimacy. Most are mere mutual commiseration
societies, without strong leadership.
In 1970, in an effort to unify these discordant elements
and groups, your author formed CADRE (Coalition of American
Divorce Reform Elements). Beginning February 13, 1971,
three incorporation conventions were held in the Elgin,
Illinois area, attended by heads of most divorce reform
organizations in the country. Unfortunately it did not fly.
To interest potential supporters including philanthropic
sources, it is necessary to demonstrate a viable,
businesslike organization, together with a financial
projection. A claque of compulsive reactionaries raised
rancorous argument. Unable to visualize beyond the nickel
and dime stage, dissenters opposed every expense from
purchase of a typewriter to a salary for the Executive
Director, apparently expecting to attract a man capable of
taking on the Supreme Court itself with less pay than a
janitor in that building. Objectors assumed the divorce
racket and institutionalized prejudice could be defeated by
part-time amateurs. Unable to grasp the difference between
a projection and a financial statement, they insisted on
having the money in hand before making plans for dispersal.
This objection to planning, of course, prevented obtaining
funds. The divisive elements immobilized the project, and
it disintegrated into a Tower of Babel.
Some of the more cooperative leaders tried again in early
1977. That effort was called Men's Equality Now (M.E.N.)
International. Unfortunately, the same type opposition
arose, and again prevented progress. It is presently
inactive, but may present the best hope for unity.
Opponents of MEN International formed a rival coalition,
the National Congress for Men (NCM. Now NCMC). Predictably,
new coalitions have developed to rival it. The Children's
Rights Council, based in Washington, DC, the American
Father's Rights Council, an unincorporated association that
met biannually in Las Vegas between 1992 and 1994, the
Coalition of Free Men in New York, the Men's Health Network
in Washington DC, and the short-lived Men's Education
Network International are or were the major attempts at
B. THE FACTIONS
The heart of the legitimate men's/fathers' movement
consists of those concerned about temporal matters, as does
the women's movement. It comprises two divisions.
Individuals and some groups concerned primarily with
gender issues other than divorce; i.e., gender roles and
perceptions, crime punishment, employment, and image.
Nearly all members advocate equal rights between the
sexes. There are two primary philosophical approaches
(strictly related to gender issues, not necessarily to
conventional politics) as follows:
These believers affirm significant distinctions between
the sexes, and deny that government should regulate domestic
and labor relations.
These believers deny significant distinction between sexes
and affirm that government should regulate domestic and
labor relations. Some androgynous types exist in this
b. domestic relations
Individuals and groups concerned primarily with divorce
issues, i.e., child custody, support, and inter-gender
income redistribution. Here too, most members advocate
equality between the sexes. Again we have the same two
subdivisions _ plus one:
Advocate traditional family values; morality, patriarchy,
Advocate easy (no fault) divorce, elimination of moral
values in custody and financial disbursements.
c. the "Children's Rights" movement
Strictly speaking, this movement has interests
different from ours. However, most members of the
children's rights movement are totally sympathetic with
men's rights, indeed use the "cover" of children's rights to
work toward men's rights. This is understandable,
considering the political incorrectness of men's rights.
They are pursuing a pragmatic path, and probably have more
chance for obtaining men's rights than openly men's rights
people do. This is not as deceptive as it might appear,
inasmuch as children's rights are men's rights.
c. philosophic differences among the objectivists
Since its modern inception, the men's/fathers' movement
has had grave philosophic problems. It has a wide too
wide political spectrum. On the left we have the
modernists, with hedonists at the extreme. On the right are
the traditionalists, with "mossbacks" and hard core
religionists at the extreme. Both the fathers' and the
men's aspects of the movement have largely the same
philosophic breakdown, but with different practical
concerns, such as the latter's debate over no-fault divorce,
and whether cohabitation should be a consideration in
custody. We can call the two camps of the men's aspect
gender liberals and gender conservatives, to avoid confusion
with the usual connotations of those terms. The former
minimize gender distinctions, and tolerate (if not engage
in) homosexuality. The latter celebrate gender distinctions
and oppose (if not abhor) that "lifestyle." Political
incorrectness can be defined as opposition to either
extreme, especially to the left.
Some gender liberals feel that minimizing the differences
between the sexes is the best way to overcome pervasive
misandry. Gender conservatives consider surrender of both
masculinity and femininity too big a price to pay for male
equality and dignity. Both are philosophically legitimate
positions. Gender liberal extremists, when they are not
fixated on "sexuality problems," rail against their manhood
as many feminists rail against their womanhood. Their
desperate attempts to change nature itself makes them hard
to distinguish from feminists, and opens to question their
inclusion in the men's movement. Surely, gender liberal
moderates have earned a legitimate place in the movement due
to their opposition (even if belated) to misandry.
Moderates in both philosophic camps need each other in order
for a movement representing the interests of men to have
even a modicum of political clout. Failure of rational
elements to cooperate means continuing disaster for all men.
The issue of who initiates sex illustrates the complexity
of factional differences. Conservatives feel it should be
initiated by husbands, only with their wives. Mod liberals
are very upset with the idea of male initiation. Classic
liberals couldn't care less.
Much of our inability to cooperate is due to legitimate
Some members of the divorce reform wing refuse to become
involved in other gender issues. Also, like their
counterparts in politics, liberals and conservatives almost
compulsively differ over many issues. Tactical differences
exist within groupings.
Regarding the dichotomy between men's rights generalists
and strict divorce reformers: the former maintain, and the
latter fail to realize, divorce is but one facet of an
immense anti-male phenomenon. Crime punishment, employment,
and image being the three other facets. Knowing it does
little good to attack only one head of a many-headed
monster, intelligent reformers advocate confronting the
monster itself; that is, it is much easier for a man to
obtain custody from a judge whose generic sex prejudice has
Many men have analyzed the problems of anti-male/anti-
family/anti-father laws and practices and devised good
solutions to them, but are naïve about how to force
legislative redress in the face of enormous opposition.
Newly divorced persons are understandably impatient to
effect reform. Too many men, ill-equipped to formulate
proper concepts, walk out the door of divorce court assuming
they have the answers, and proceed to mount an attack on the
legislature with newly hatched solutions and agendas. While
many are well-intentioned, others are often egotistic and
naïve. In attempting to restructure the men's movement more
to their liking, by-passing existing efforts, and siphoning
off members and potential members from mature organizations,
they have actually hampered progress.
Having been in this movement 26 years, this writer firmly
believes that no one with less than 10 years experience,
most of it under the tutelage of well-experienced persons,
even comprehends the domestic relations situation or how
best to remedy it.
The sad history of the divorce reform/ fathers' rights
element of the men's movement is that we have self-
destructed repeatedly, while the well-oiled "feminist"
juggernaut runs roughshod over us.
In the last decade or so, a large school has formed,
composed mainly of introspective men seeking to find
happiness, or to cope with unhappiness, in male bonding,
drumming, mythopoetry, etc.
Because of this camp's concentration on the self, they are
considered by most serious intellectuals to be on the
philosophic fringes of the real men's movement. Yet, the
media almost universally characterizes them as the men's
Many present day objectivists were in the anti-male camp
for years, but fortunately are now finding that traditional
masculinity is OK. Perhaps someday they will acknowledge
those who were defending masculinity while they were
We must define our limits. We cannot be all things to all
men. Many purported men's movement philosophies pursue
agendas not addressing, or incompletely addressing, the twin
evils of male oppression. Therefore some purported reform
philosophies (and by extension groups pursuing them) are not
legitimately within the men's movement or are incomplete in
Who are these individuals and groups whose membership in
the men's movement is illegitimate? Judging from their
literature, they include many androgynous type males,
homosexuals, other low testosterone types, and psychological
dropouts from manhood, many of whom complain of traumatic
experiences with fathers or with other physically stronger
men. Some of their influential personages appear to be
charlatans seeking fame or fortune in a pathetic following.
What does this element believe? Their positions on gender
issues, as well as their definitions, are confusing. They
reject manhood and things male. They advocate that men
"change" or "transition," into just what is uncertain;
probably not into something most normal men would approve
of. John Wayne and Rambo are their bogeymen. They drearily
denounce male violence (even the game of football),
oppression of women and "homophobia." In short, their
definition of men's liberation is freedom from being men,
while more traditional men feel that it means freedom to be
They often categorize themselves as "pro feminist men."
Defense of masculinity is "sexist" to them. Female violence
is either not mentioned or is rationalized. The idea that
males are more oppressed than are females seems beyond their
comprehension. Instead of opposing perverted chivalry, some
simply want to extend it to include men. Others are
militantly anti-male types who attack the traditional male
How do pro feminist men adversely affect the men's
movement? The very anti-maleness this element espouses is
an important cause of prejudice against all men.
Philosophically they are in the enemy camp, and admission
into ours could sabotage and emasculate it, diluting our
effectiveness (Not that we have had much to date). These
Trojan Horse occupants could destroy our credibility, as
lesbians did to what little of that the feminist movement
might have had.
Anyone who is not psychologically of a gender has no
business in or influencing a movement defining the interests
of that gender. They have a cultural conflict of interest.
This approach may alienate some liberals, but it seems
appropriate that the men's movement beware of anti-male
philosophies masquerading as pro-male ones.
C. PERSPECTIVE AND UNITY
Anti-male elements in society understand but one thing,
political clout on a national level. If we are serious
about reform, we must agree on a common philosophy, define
who we are and cooperate with legitimate allies within
existing structures to develop that clout. Until we do, we
can forget ever achieving equality.
The concerns of the objectivists seem to be much more
legitimate than those of the subjectivists. For example,
many thousands of men are incarcerated in every county of
this country, as well as Canada, Europe, and other western
nations, due to inability to pay alimony/support or because
vindictive divorcing wives made false accusations against
them. Isn't it reasonable to have much more sympathy for
them than for those feeling grief over harsh fathers or
because their homosexuality is ridiculed?
The Men's Defense Association suggests that our common
unifying philosophy be equal rights and equal dignity for
the male sex. That may be the only principle that all the
disparate legitimate elements can agree on, and it is a good
In pursuit of better understanding, our newsletter, The
Liberator, airs all rational arguments regarding these
issues, occasionally carrying debates between leading
Philosophical differences within the legitimate movement
are not mutually exclusive. We must not let them divide us.
We need each other.
Dr. Charles Phillips has devised a model graphically
illustrating how all pro-male elements may cooperate in
containing and overcoming misandry. It appears below.
[Unity model graphic here from Pagemaker library]
To reverse the sad history of self-destruction in the
movement, those historical demons of reform, parochial
attitudes, must be overcome. Victims and reformers must get
their heads out of the local sand and attack anti-male
prejudice as a world-wide problem.
Defections from existing organizations must be
discouraged. This requires developing mutual respect,
confronting seemingly inherent egotistical problems,
eliminating them in any way necessary, and restoring
organizational continuity. I submit this involves honoring
our founding fathers _ men such as Reuben Kidd, George
Partis, Jay Burchette, Charlie Metz, and other early birds.
There is plenty of talent in the movement to obtain our
goals, if it could be marshaled. The various groups
throughout North America, Europe and the newly forming ones
in So. Africa, Australia, and New Zealand must mature
sufficiently to begin working together. The best hope of
bringing some measure of cohesion to the movement would
appear to be some sort of amalgam of these.
If those introspective types on the fringe of the
legitimate movement, by far a majority, would mature
sufficiently to join the minority legitimate movement, great
strides could be taken.
Writing this tome on behalf of men's rights in the present
contrary political climate, put me in mind of Whittaker
Chambers when he determined to eschew Communism and come
over to the side of free enterprise. He felt he was joining
the losing side. One can get that feeling contemplating the
vast political juggernaught lined up in opposition to men's
However, when international communism met its demise, Mr.
Chambers was proved to have chosen the right side. Too bad
he never lived to see it.
The forces for good, that is, justice for men, can, must
and will be marshaled to vanquish the opposing forces. Our
forces are building an army of angry men across America and
beyond whose combined wrath will be awesome when they
assemble. I pray to God I live to see that day.
DIVORCE ASSISTANCE SERVICE FORMS
A Publicity release
[for the local news media].
For both personal counseling and mail only operations
LOCAL MEN'S DIVORCE GROUP JOINS NETWORK
MEN'S EQUALITY NOW (M.E.N.) INTERNATIONAL [OR THE AMERICAN
FATHER'S RIGHTS COUNCIL], A NATIONAL NON-PROFIT COALITION OF
DIVORCE REFORM ORGANIZATIONS, IS PROUD TO ANNOUNCE
ACCEPTANCE OF (YOUR GROUP'S NAME) AS ITS LOCAL AFFILIATE.
COALITION MEMBERS BELIEVE THAT:
IN DIVORCE, MEN ARE ROUTINELY STRIPPED OF CHILDREN,
HOUSES, MONEY, ETC., AT THE WHIMS OF WIVES, JUDGES, AND
IN CRIME PUNISHMENT, MEN ARE TREATED LIKE 2ND CLASS
CITIZENS THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE PROCESS, FROM ARREST THROUGH
CONDITIONS OF IMPRISONMENT.
IN EMPLOYMENT, WOMEN ARE OFTEN HIRED AND PROMOTED OVER
MORE QUALIFIED MEN.
THAT THIS DISCRIMINATION IS INDICATIVE OF AN OVERALL
ANTI-MALE SENTIMENT IN SOCIETY.
COALITION ACTIVITIES INCLUDE PROMOTION OF IMPROVED
LEGISLATION, APPLICATION OF PRESSURE ON THE JUDICIARY,
EXPOSURE OF FLAGRANT WRONGS, EDUCATION OF THE PUBLIC, HELP
FOR INDIVIDUAL MEMBERS INCLUDING COUNSELING [the preceding
two words only for counseling operations] AND REFERRAL TO
MEMBER ORGANIZATIONS FUNCTION AS COLLECTIVE BARGAINING
AGENTS _ FOR THEIR MEMBERS _ WITH ATTORNEYS WHO PLEDGE
DILIGENT SERVICE AT REASONABLE RATES.
HEADQUARTERED IN (YOUR TOWN, STATE), THIS GROUP, (ITS NAME),
CAN BE REACHED BY CALLING (YOUR PHONE #) 24HRS. DAILY.
_ 30 _
Dissemination equivalent to that of feminist literature
[This to remind the media that fairness demands they
publicize your existence.]
B Media ads.
For both operations
DIVORCE (in letters 4 lines high)
Beat the racket/prejudice! Literature, Counseling [if you
elect to provide this service], attorney referral. 24 hr.
message (Your group name and phone #) Local affiliate of
M.E.N. International/AFRC [if appropriate]
(Above is a newspaper ad.)
LITERATURE & REFERRALS. DEDICATED TO JUSTICE _
EQUALITY AND AFFORDABILITY FOR ALL 24 HR. MESSAGE
(Your group name and phone number)
(Above is a phone book ad.)
C Telephone tape
For both operations
HELLO, THIS IS THE (Your group's name) WITH A ONE WAY
3 MINUTE MESSAGE TO EXPLAIN OUR PURPOSE, FUNCTIONS AND WHAT
WE CAN DO FOR YOU. HAVE A PENCIL READY FOR THE
ADDRESS/DIRECT LINE TELEPHONE NUMBER[address if mail-only,
phone # if personal counseling].
WE ARE A YEAR OLD ORGANIZATION THAT HAS HELPED OVER
MEMBERS THROUGHOUT (your town or state). WE ENCOURAGE
SENSIBLE LEGISLATION, ENLIGHTEN JUDGES AND EDUCATE THE
PUBLIC ON MEN'S RIGHTS AND DIVORCE REFORM. THE NATIONAL
MEDIA FREQUENTLY CONSULTS AND QUOTES US. WE ARE AFFILIATED
WITH, AND APPROVED BY, MEN INTERNATIONAL/AFRC [name one or
both, if appropriate].
ANY RATIONAL OBSERVER IS AWARE THAT MEN AND TRADITIONAL
MANHOOD ARE UNDER ATTACK FROM MANY QUARTERS. DIVORCE CAN BE
A SHATTERING, PREJUDICIAL AND VERY COSTLY EXPERIENCE,
ESPECIALLY FOR MEN, BECAUSE THE LAW AND COURTS ARE STACKED
AGAINST THEM. CHILD CUSTODY, PROPERTY AND FINANCIAL
DISPOSITIONS AFFECT OUR LIVES FOR A LONG TIME. ON TOP OF
THAT, DIVORCE IS A MULTI- BILLION $ RACKET. HELP FROM WELL-
EXPERIENCED PERSONS WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH THESE PROBLEMS IS
INVALUABLE. THAT'S WHY MOST MEMBERS JOIN US.
WE HAVE REFINED THE BEST ADVICE OF DIVORCE LAWYERS AND
COUNSELORS, AND MADE IT AVAILABLE, AS EDUCATIONAL MATTER, TO
MEMBERS. VARIOUS PUBLICATIONS GUIDE MEMBERS THROUGH THE
LEGAL MAZE, AND HELPS NON-CONTESTING COUPLES TO CONTROL
THEIR DIVORCES. A VERY INFORMATIVE MONTHLY NEWSLETTER IS
WE HAVE A STABLE OF COMPETENT, DIVORCE-SPECIALIZING
ATTORNEYS, ATTORNEYS WHO HAVE BEEN RECOMMENDED BY OTHER
DIVORCE VICTIMS. THEY CAN BE AGGRESSIVE IN CONTESTED
MATTERS OR QUICK AND EASY IN UNCONTESTED ONES. THROUGH
COLLECTIVE BARGAINING, THEY HAVE AGREED TO REPRESENT MEMBERS
DILIGENTLY, AT REASONABLE RATES, KNOWING YOU WILL REPORT
THEIR CONDUCT TO US. THEY PROVIDE MEMBERS AN INITIAL
INTERVIEW AT NO CHARGE, TO EVALUATE SITUATIONS AND DISCUSS
HANDLING AND COSTS. THIS ALONE IS WORTH MORE THAN OUR LOW
WE FUNCTION MOST EFFICIENTLY BY MAIL ONLY, WITHOUT A
"DROP IN" OFFICE [if that is true]. IN THIS WAY, MEMBERSHIP
COSTS ARE MINIMUMIZED. AND TAX DEDUCTIBLE.
WHETHER YOUR CASE IS A KNOCK DOWN, DRAG OUT FIGHT OR A
SIMPLE MATTER, OUR HELP IS INVALUABLE, AS SATISFIED MEMBERS
REPORT. DON'T DELAY, OR YOU MAY REGRET IT.
WE FIGHT FOR YOU, AND EXPECT YOUR HELP IN RETURN. THE
STANDARD MEMBERSHIP DONATION IS $30.00 [or whatever].
INCLUDE A BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF YOUR CASE, INDICATING THE
JURISDICTION AND ANY CHILD CUSTODY INVOLVEMENT.
IF YOU WISH LITERATURE FURTHER DESCRIBING US, IT CAN BE
OBTAINED FOR $2.00. MAIL THE DONATION TO (your group's name
and address)(Repeat it). MAILINGS CAN BE RECEIVED IN A
PLAIN ENVELOPE IF REQUESTED. [This paragraph and the last
sentence of the preceeding paragraph are for mail only
TO PROTECT OURSELVES AGAINST CHARGES OF PRACTICING LAW
WITHOUT A LICENSE, WE CAN COUNSEL ONLY WITH MEMBERS. TO
BECOME A MEMBER, AND BE ELIGIBLE FOR COUNSELING, CALL (2ND
LINE #) FOR AN APPOINTMENT. THAT'S (2ND LINE #). [This
paragraph is for personal counseling operations]
D Prospective member letter, Fact Sheet and Application
[for mail-only operations]
ABOUT THE [Your group's name] ASSOCIATION
I'm [your name], founder of the [group's name]. This
letter is to acquaint you with our organization and what we
can do for YOU in specific ways.
The male of the species is under increasing attack
legally, politically, economically, and culturally. It is
our mission to defend the interests of men, despite the
enormity of contrary forces and opinion.
Members receive literature and referrals to local attorney
and organizations, all of which minimizes the cost and
problems of amicable divorce and maximizes chances of
success in non-amicable ones. Why do men need this help?
Because of the incredible amount of discrimination against
us, especially in divorce. We men are guests in our own
homes, evictable at the whims of wives and judges. Mothers
receive custody of children 95% of the time, regardless of
merit. Divorce, a multi-billion dollar racket blessed by
the courts, often impoverishes men. Nowadays the dangers
are often compounded by accusations (usually false) of
violence and/or sexual abuse of children. Designed to
frustrate custody or visitation, these are very difficult
ploys to defend against. The accused are presumed guilty.
Bad as it is, divorce is but one facet of a general
pattern of anti-male discrimination that extends into nearly
all areas of law and society. Men's treatment is far more
harsh than women's throughout the entire spectrum of crime
and punishment. Men suffer in employment and other areas as
well. The concept of equal rights for men has not dawned
yet. The male image itself suffers accusation and ridicule.
Oversimplified, the cause of men's sorry situation is a
combination of perverted chivalry and misandry (hatred of
men, manhood and fatherhood). Compared to men, the
complaints of women's lib. are ill-founded.
[Tell how you became involved in the divorce reform
movement] There's more, but I won't bore you with it.
I discovered that other divorcing men were also
experiencing the same treatment. It was routine. Even yet,
many new members feel their cases are unique, precedent-
setting landmarks. They're not. They're just the same old
sad story. We have a file of them that would sober a judge.
I dedicated my life to trying to save other fathers,
children and families from such savagery. In 1972, several
other divorce victims decent, justice-seeking Joes, also
gutsy, damn mad and tired of being pushed around and I
decided to form the [your group's name] Association, to
fight discrimination and lawyer gouging, on behalf of the
forgotten "little guys." The basic concept is that in unity
there is strength.
The publishers of the newsletter we make available engage
in research, mostly into divorce its causes, results, and
methods of reform. They have uncovered proof that maternal
custody is highly correlated with juvenile delinquency and
most child abuse occurs to children placed in maternal
custody. Their research has uncovered sociological studies
in defense of masculinity, and enabled us to expose the
duplicity of many laws and judicial practices.
Our cause isn't exactly a bandwagon yet, but we hope to
make it so. Some critics have labeled us "anti-women."
Wrong! We are pro-justice. Nor are we a reactionary (to
feminism) movement. We are a positive movement for the
rights of men. Indeed, we predate the term, "Women's lib."
Despite our successes, there is much more to be done.
There is lobbying to do, class action and individual
lawsuits to initiate. We must undertake a public education
program. We would love to jump in and move these mountains;
but resources are limited. Being unsubsidized, we have to
pay our way too. Tax-deductible membership contributions
help us defend against the onslaughts of the courts and
modern prejudices, improve the status of men in society, and
engage in the pursuit of our rights.. So, in addition to
helping themselves, members help a very good cause.
Where do you fit in here? Is a divorce in the offing? It
may be, if your wife claims to need her freedom or if she
wants you to move out while she thinks about it. If these
or other symptoms appear, you may be a candidate for
"Divorce American Style." You're probably lonely and
scared, as I was. My heart goes out to you. But now is the
time to be strong and get good advice, not follow the
dictates of chivalrous conditioning and fall into the usual
self-defeating patterns. Men cannot be neutral in this
struggle. Neutrality is silent collaboration in the
oppression of our gender. In the end, you are the guy who
must do what a man needs to do to salvage his life. We just
provide the tools.
Over a period of X years, we have refined the best advice
of divorce lawyers and counselors, and made it available to
members through various publications. Literature on
starting your own organization is also available. We have
developed a stable of competent divorce-specializing
attorneys in [your county] who have agreed to represent
members diligently and at reasonable rates. Men are in
desperate need of such attorneys. It's a sad commentary on
the legal profession, but to find and motivate one without
help is nearly impossible. We motivate them with the
promise of lots of business, the collective bargaining
approach. Surprisingly, many non-specializing lawyers know
little about the complexities of divorce laws and practices.
This combination of literature and lawyers has helped [X
number of] members since we began. Good results have been
so numerous we quit keeping track long ago. We have had
testimonial letters and pictures of enough kids, whose
custody we've been instrumental in obtaining, to fill an
album. Members have won very difficult cases (Of course,
they've lost some too). Their property settlements are
better than average, yet their attorney fees are much lower
than average. Many letters say "Thank you for being there."
We can't unfairly influence courts, or send someone to
punish ex-wives and man-hating judges (as some expect us to
do), however richly-deserved these actions may seem. But if
you obtain and follow proper guidelines in time, you may
avoid experiencing how some male divorce victims come to
harbor such feelings.
Victims and potential victims can break their chains only
if they support institutions geared toward that purpose,
institutions like the [your group's name] and the
newsmagazine, The Liberator. Those who don't support these
institutions have only themselves to blame for what happens
Incredibly enough, many men are reluctant to support an
organization dedicated to them, yet don't blink an eye at
spending huge sums on the wrong lawyers. Some are too
psychologically devastated to even work. Almost no one can
win a hard divorce fight without a job and the fortitude to
hold one. Some expect the impossible. These are not the
kind of members we are seeking. If you're looking for a
free shoulder to cry on, you've got the wrong outfit. If
you genuinely want to help yourself, you've got the right
The bottom line is membership in the [your group's name]
is a mutual relationship: we help you directly with
information and referrals and indirectly with research and
representation to officials and to the public, and we expect
you to help us by joining and if possible by making further
voluntary contributions. In view of our efforts, we feel
justified in expecting beneficiaries to share a small
portion of the costs ( which sometimes exceed income).
In summation, we sincerely believe we are your best hope
for obtaining good divorce results and for upgrading the
general image of men, all for a small donation.
If you know a divorcing friend, you would do him a favor
to tell him about us. He'll thank you for it. Help us to
President, [Your group's name] Assoc
(Obviously, individual organizations may wish to
substantially modify this letter to suit their own purposes.
The above, from the Men's Defense Assoc., is largely for
illustration. You may wish to have an officer of your
organization as the source, and/or you may wish to embellish
it with such illustrations as a screened photograph or
drawing of a father and child holding hands. However, it is
important to have a letter carrying such a message)
AS A MEMBER OF THE (your group's name), YOU RECEIVE BENEFITS
FAR MORE VALUABLE THAN THEIR COST. THEY INCLUDE:
* publications designed to show you the cheapest, best way
to proceed in divorce, be it amicable or non-amicable.
* computer printout of referral attorneys for your state
who have agreed to provide our members with diligent service
at reasonable rates, recommended by other divorce victims.
* computer printout of local divorce help groups.
* professional help at a lesser cost than do-it-yourself
can be, in terms of possibly bungled work and the value of
one's own time. Although we don't control fees, some of our
attorneys have handled simple, agreed-upon divorces for as
little as $300.
* free initial interview (usually around 1/2 hour) with the
referral attorney to appraise your case and discuss fees.
This alone is worth twice the cost of membership.
* general Information on child custody, support, school
records access, abuse charges, child custody evaluation
services, non-support defenses, appeal deadlines and
conditions, computer networks, much more.
* referral to VOCAL (Victims of Child Abuse Laws)
* a bibliography of recommended reading material for in-
depth studies into specific divorce aspects, marital and non-
marital contracts, tax considerations, sociological issues,
"underground living," forming your own men's rights/divorce
reform organization, etc.
* a reasonable membership donation; less than you would
spend on an average night out.
AS A SUBSCRIBER TO THE LIBERATOR MONTHLY NEWSLETTER,
* Current information on all the above, with
citations, useful to both lawyers and subscribers.
* Info. on computer networks and other resources.
* Essays on divorce matters and other gender-based
issues, written by nation's top writers exclusively for THE
* Book reviews on wide-ranging subjects of importance
to divorced men.
* Info. on introductions to unspoiled foreign women.
IT WILL PAY YOU TO JOIN (your group) AND SUBSCRIBE TO THE
Fellow victim, and potential victim, that pal, means YOU! _
Isn't it time to get off your duff and take positive action
NOW while you're thinking about it?
Join in the rescue of the male gender. Save $$$
Membership Application Form
(Your group's name and address)
Gentlemen - Yes, I'd like to join forces with you and obtain
the materials and benefits checked below (at left):
[ ] Membership: includes relevant literature and printout
of local recommended referral attorneys and divorce
(Indicate on line above the city and state where
divorce did or will occur)
[ ] One year subscription to THE LIBERATOR
[ ] To help further your research and other work,
I have enclosed a special contribution of
TOTAL ENCLOSED $_____
With my membership package, ordered above, please send free:
[ ] literature on custody of children under 12 years of age.
[ ] literature on defense against false child abuse charges.
[ ] SEND MEMBERSHIP MATERIALS(only) IN PLAIN ENVELOPE
City _________________ State______ Zip
PAYMENT: Make checks payable to the (your group's name)
Mail this form and check to the address above. After
acceptance of membership, we mail literature, analyze cases,
and pay bills with the income, therefore refunds are
description: If a divorce is at issue, please include a
brief description of case, including present marital status,
legal residence(s), property ownership and location,
children's location, ages and custodial preference (if over
l2), and ability to reach mutual agreement on terms. Don't
send court papers. We'll let you know if we need them.
NOTICE: We can't guarantee that by joining the (your group)
you will win your case. Our lawyers aren't miracle makers
who can turn bad cases into good ones. But they will give
you their best shot (They better! They know that if they
don't, you will tell us and we may replace them).
ABOUT MEMBERSHIP COSTS
There is no charge for services. These are voluntary
contributions, given to oppose discrimination, fight
juvenile delinquency, and promote justice. Because
divorcing men are usually in dire financial straits, we
would like to help even those who don't contribute, if that
were possible. But it's not; there are certain financial
realities of life that apply to us like everyone else.
The costs of our research and educational projects, plus
publication and overhead costs, are considerable. Just
advertising for, and mailing to, prospective members costs
over $2 per respondent. Hence our request for donations.
There are many other badly needed projects to undertake
which are simply not affordable presently. Our income is
insufficient even to reimburse the staff who freely donate
an incredible amount of time, money and (most of all) self.
No government agency is about to help us, because men's
rights are so unpopular politically. The same with private
philanthropy. It boils down to this we men must help
ourselves. Financial support must come from those we serve.
So please join, if only to help the cause. And, if
possible, give a little more.
THANKS _ Over
E Membership application form
[for personal counseling operations]
For personal counseling operations.
(YOUR GROUP'S NAME) APPLICATION AND SUGGESTED ANNUAL
Membership $40.00 Renewal $15.00
Membership donations are not in exchange for counseling _
that could be illegal. Their purpose is to maintain
facilities and fund costs of publicizing our goals,
programs, and proposals for amending existing laws and
practices relating to men's rights. They help finance the
fight to obtain justice for all men, in all areas.
Undertaking these functions costs over $30.00 an hour.
Expenses often exceed income; when they do, the staff's
token salaries, which are for administrative work, not for
counseling, are reduced or suspended.
Because divorcing men are usually in dire financial straits,
we would like to help even those who don't contribute, if
that were possible. But it's not; the financial realities
of life apply to us like everyone else.
Counseling, attorney referrals, and literature are available
to members during their membership period. Our counseling
is not "legal advice," but rather discussion of problems
with experienced persons. (Your group name) representatives
are normally not lawyers; they cannot represent members in
court, procure a divorce for members, or guarantee a
member's ability to obtain a divorce. Members are normally
referred to attorneys for action or advice. We urge all
members to consider marriage counseling. Members must
expect an objective evaluation of their situation rather
than an optomistic evaluation.
I understand and accept the foregoing conditions, and
release the (your group's name) and any and all of their
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TERMS OF MEMBERSHIP AND GENERAL INFORMATION
Members are entitled to literature referral to one or more
divorce-specializing attorneys. These are enclosed
herewith. Remember, we are an information source only;
until we get beaucoup members or major grants, we are not
able to become involved in cases.
Referral attorneys have agreed, and are reported by members,
to provide diligent service at reasonable rates (this means
quality work, but not necessarily cheap work) and to provide
a free initial interview, not to exceed ½ hour, to evaluate
situations and discuss handling and costs. To obtain these
considerations, simply show your membership acknowledgment
letter in the original envelope addressed to you, to the
attorney. The free interview applies only to the FIRST
attorney you choose; any subsequent interviews are subject
to normal charges.
We accept no responsibility for the actions or inactions of
attorneys. Members must not expect them to be magicians,
capable of turning bad cases into good ones. They are
regular practitioners, so we don't expect them to do charity
work. Help your attorney; be prepared with all the
necessary facts. Don't try "snowing" him with how nice a
guy you are. Lawyer "ethics" discourage lawyers, including
ours, from discussing legal matters with clients of another
lawyer. So, if you presently have an attorney in your
employ, don't approach ours before firing him (or be
Please evaluate the referral attorney's ability, diligence
and fee on a the enclosed post card and return to us. You
owe it to the members following you who may or may not be
referred to that attorney based on your recommendations.
Your membership donation is not in exchange for counseling,
attorney referral or literature. It is utilized for
maintenance of facilities and defraying costs of publicizing
our purposes, programs, publications and examining laws and
practices relating to men's rights. Overhead costs of
undertaking these functions are high; expenses equal or
exceed income. [No one on our volunteer staff receives even
token compensation. If true]
We can't help everyone, but we do our very best to try.
Overworked and understaffed, we haven't the resources to
discuss cases with individual members, but membership
materials should satisfy any reasonable needs.
To those who ask us questions about their case. There are
several reasons we cannot make other than very general
1.) Our referral attorneys are better qualified than we to
answer questions. You are entitled to a free interview.
2.) The state bar association has sued organizations like
ours for practicing law without a license, angry because
we are breaking up their divorce racket. We don't want to
give them something real to sue about.
3.) The small membership donations barely pay the overhead.
Many members ask what they can do to help. That's admirable
and welcome; but first become well-informed. Read The
Liberator and other recommended literature (See order form
over), so as to know what the overall situation is and
should be. Then, write letters to local editors. Post our
notices (See over) on bulletin boards, solicit and send us
We need experienced fund raising and public relations
people, preferably professionals, to help get our message to
the public. If you, or anyone you know, qualify and are
willing to volunteer, please let us know. Above all, help
us to help others. If you have a divorcing friend do him a
favor and encourage him to join the [your group's name] and
subscribe to The Liberator. He'll thank you for it. What
you can do for the Association is every bit as important as
what it can do for you. Thanks.
[group name] Staff
(More resources over)
We recommend that all members subscribe to The Liberator
newsmagazine. It will keep you and your lawyer up to date
on the latest legal occurrences and is a source of
invaluable information. The anti-male attitudes that you
have encountered, or will encounter, can be overcome only by
supporting institutions geared to that end, like The
Almost half of divorcing males are being charged now with
child abuse. We recommend the accused contact VOCAL
(Victims of Child Abuse Laws) by calling them at 303/233-
5321, or the National Association of State VOCAL
Organizations at 916/863-7470.
Custody of children around 11 or older is discussed on
page 8 of the publication, DIVORCE: What Everyone Should
Know. Any good divorce attorney will have access to child
custody evaluators who are not afraid to recommend paternal
custody. [If good mediation is available locally, so state
here, and continue with "We urge you to take advantage of
this service, if any chance of saving the marriage. Hang
Retired military personnel facing pension theft should
contact American Retirees Association at 7564 Trade St. San
Diego, CA 92121, phone 703/527-3065.
The organization, HALT (Help Abolish Legal Tyranny), is
reputed to combat lawyer abuse. This may interest some
members. Its address: 1319 F St. NW. Washington, DC. 20004.
(Late address changes of such organizations appear in The
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2 If you're not competent and intelligent, don't even
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3 See Men's Issues Publications. In Appendix
4 The subject of cooperation is thoroughly discussed in
The Men's Manifesto.
5 You can contact the National Paralegal Association in
Solebury, PA for the location of your nearest paralegal
school. Home-study paralegal courses are also advertized in
6 Source of forms: Butterworth forms 80 Montvale Av.
Stoneham, MA 02180-2422.; phone 617/438-8464.
7 Two books can help: Diane Medved's The Case Against
Divorce and Wallerstein & Blakesly's Second Chance.
8 For an effective defense to demands for production of
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l2/l7/76, available through law libraries or from the Clerk
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9 Mr. Kidd is now Vice-President of the Men's Defense
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